Say what the teen needs to hear
- The addiction is not your fault.
- You cannot control another person’s substance use.
- Your feelings are valid, even when they conflict.
- It is okay to ask a safe adult for help.
Create predictable safety
Keep routines as consistent as circumstances allow. Identify adults the teen can contact, safe places they can go, and what they should do if an adult is impaired, threatening, or unresponsive.
Watch for signs the teen needs more help
Major changes in sleep, school performance, mood, isolation, substance use, or statements about self-harm deserve prompt attention from a qualified professional. In an immediate crisis, call 911 or call or text 988.
Respect privacy without keeping dangerous secrets
Let teens choose how much they share, but explain that adults must act when someone may be in danger. School counselors, pediatricians, therapists, and trusted family members can help build a wider circle of support.