Start with a calm conversation
Choose a private time when everyone is as calm and clear-headed as possible. Speak about specific things you have noticed and how they affect you. Use language such as “I’m worried about you” instead of labels or accusations.
Listen for what the person is willing to say. A conversation does not have to end with an immediate commitment to treatment to be worthwhile.
Offer concrete help
- Help locate a licensed treatment provider or primary-care professional.
- Offer to sit with them while they call a helpline or treatment program.
- Provide transportation to an appointment when it is safe and appropriate.
- Keep naloxone available when opioid use may be involved and learn how to use it.
Set boundaries you can keep
Support does not require protecting someone from every consequence or accepting behavior that puts you, children, or others at risk. State boundaries clearly, explain what you will do if they are crossed, and choose actions you can realistically follow through on.
Protect your own wellbeing
Family members and friends need support too. A counselor, family-support group, trusted faith leader, or peer community can help you make decisions without carrying everything alone.